From Me to You

 

Compiled By: Darlene G. Snyder

AKA – Bits and Bites, Advice for the Pastor’s Wife

Written By: Nancy Havner

Chickamauga, GA 

 

 

A pastor’s wife should never play favorites.  I used to move around the congregation and sit with different people during the worship services so I could get to know them.  This was never a problem for me because I love people so much. Sometimes you might find some of the people come around you more than others do. This does not mean you love them more. One thing I found to be a difficulty for pastor’s wives is that life sometimes is hard because they do not have close friends to whom they can talk.  You will find there are just some things you cannot talk about to church members.  Occasionally, you are fortunate enough to be close enough to talk to another pastor’s wife.

For a young pastor’s wife, my advice would be to take care of your husband first.  He needs you to support and pray for him.  The wife is the one that sets up a very loving home so he will want to come home and feel secure. He needs this, so support him, and help build each other up.  If you do this, you can help church members better.

It is vital that a pastor’s wife has discretion and is not a busybody! Let your husband be able to tell you things going on in the church and it stay just between the two of you.  He needs to talk things over sometimes.  Allow him to have faith in you.

It’s important to set up some free time each week for each other.  The church will demand all of your time if you let them.  In one church we served we had something going on every day and every night. We set aside each Friday morning for ourselves.  We went to a special place for breakfast and talked.  We enjoyed each other all morning.  You’d be surprised how much that helped us.

  Take care of family and do what you feel God wants you to do in the church.  You have to learn it is not wrong to say, no.